Eli thinks I am spoilt because I grew up with a full-time live-in domestic helper. He also blames the domestic helper for the bad housekeeping habits I have.

I told him that I would like full-time assistance with household chores in time to come. He disagrees saying he doesn’t like the idea of a stranger sharing his house and would not mind an hourly paid helper to come by once a week. In my rebuttal, I asked him who would clean up when a spill happens? Also, when you have babies you will want your floor clean at all times!

“My maid swept and mopped the house twice a day!” I told him.

He asked, “Then what will you do all day?”

I’ve plenty to do, don’t you worry about that sweetie.

So when we chatted with his sista, he asked her if she has domestic help. I told her that Eli would not let me have a live-in helper.

She tells him, “Eli, you have no idea how hard it is when you have kids. One hour you’re feeding the baby, the next you’re feeding the toddler, then it’s back to the baby, then you send the kids to school, help them with their school work, you cook, and you have to have your eyes on the baby all the time. And I’m not even talking about the shopping that needs to be done.”

She would get a full-time live-in helper if she could afford it, but it is very pricey where she resides. In fact she told me that everyone has one back where they came from because it is inexpensive. I told her it’s the same where I come from.

Eli says, “We’ll see.”

His argument is that domestic help will deprive the children of the opportunity to learn good housekeeping because they will always assume there will be someone there to pick up their mess. I don’t have a good counter-argument for that. But I do know that I will need to start tidying up after myself because I do not have a maid to pick up after me and Mommy isn’t here!