A challenge was posed to be to abstain from Twittering for 48 hours and I am proud to say I managed. Truth be told, it wasn’t difficult. The past two days have been intense. Literally tensing on my nerves and brains. My mind was so tensed for most of the day that the moment the tension let up, I would doze off. The challenges of the past couple of days still linger, but how is it that the tension is relieved daily? It’s no secret – Eli. He is so admirably calm and provides much comfort. He would tell me everything is going to be okay and he would take action to make it all okay.

I am very dependent on Eli and I have no problems with this. Although, I wouldn’t lie that there are times when I worry about being too dependent on him. What if his patience for me runs out? What if he gets tired and burnt out from always having to pick up after me? I never want him to feel like I am taking advantage of him and/or taking him for granted, always assuming he will be there for me to run to. I think my time-to-time worry is healthy, precisely because I don’t ever want to take who and what I have for granted.

Taking things for granted is one of the greatest pitfall for a lot of people and a lot of things. In every relationship, once the appreciation starts to falter, sullenness steeps in and things become ugly. A healthy relationship is one where both parties respect and admire each other for who they are, and as always, communication is key.

Every night, I thank Eli for being the wonderful man that he is. I tell him he is the most amazing person I know and that is the truth. I also thank him for preparing food for me, for driving me places, et cetera. I literally say, “Thank you honey for…” Because by making the effort to say these things, it sends him an acknowledgement that I have noticed his actions and I appreciate him. It also helps me to take stock and remember that the things he does for me, they aren’t a given but a choice effort.

Have you said Thank You to the person who has/is making a difference in your life?

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Twitter abstinence came about because we were watching an exaggerated Youtube video of people who Tweet. It made me realize that a lot of my Tweets in the daytime are meaningless monologues, and I don’t like that. I have got to learn to use Twitter appropriately! But that is not to say I am not going to continue my meaningless monologues. It is a tool of procrastination masked beneath the umbrella term of “social networking”.