Eli and I have just returned from our maiden camping trip to Saltspring Island, BC. Prior to sailing off last Friday, we made a silent promise – one that only I was aware of – that if we survived the trip, we will seriously begin to journal our adventures in life, especially this romantic relationship we share.
I thoroughly enjoy writing and have always kept a diary. Writing was where I found solace and journaling was therapeutic. I did recollections and reflections. Most importantly, it acted as a point of reference for when I ever need to replay a fuzzy memory.
When Eli and I first began dating, the wanting to start a journal dedicated to our budding relationship was intense. I wanted very badly to write every single detail down so as never to forget what an amazing time in my life this is. Alas, the more exciting the relationship, the more time we spent together (i.e. every minute possible), the less time there was for recollection. This is the irony of keeping a journal. When you have the time to write, there is often nothing to write about. And when there are a lot of things to write about, chances are you barely have the time and energy to do so.
As the days went by, more and more friends began to ask me about Eli, and about our relationship. How we met, what is it like, how is it that we can’t get enough of each other, how do we do it, how can we be so passionate despite being so tired, etc. We realized that people are very curious about relationships. Whether concerned for the couple (Eli and I), wanting to learn from another person’s relationship or simply for gossiping, people wanted to know.
Every lady wants a prince charming who would sweep her off her feet and every man wants to pamper a woman. Everyone wants to be loved.
There is never enough knowledge to acquire when it comes to learning how to attract someone, and never enough experience to save you from getting your heart broken. The desire to be attractive, loved and protected drives us to speak to others about their relationship just so we may learn.
Yes, it is much less painful to learn from someone else’s experience.
Eli and I are not relationship gurus by any means. We are just two twenty-somethings who found the person of our dreams in each other, are making daily choices to love the other in pursuit of a lifetime of happiness. Within a short time frame, our relationship has grown by leaps and bounds. Catapulted by the ups and downs, challenges in life and through getting to know each other, Eli-Carine partnership is now well broken in.
Keepmylover is a creative expression of our blossoming relationship. It is my desire to note in detail everything that makes this relationship as real, crazy, solid, passionate… as it is today, tomorrow, the day before and the days to come.
What makes a relationship tick? What ticks off your partner? How to negotiate and consult with each other? How to keep the relationship alive filled with laughter, passion and unconditional giving?
Keepmylover writes about just how to keep your love, your lover.